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‘If you ask me about getting married, I answer that you are regretful whichever you choose’ Socrates said. Many people worry about getting married. In the past, most people got married and thought they should do. So they regarded some people who were not married as the flawed and they worried about who they marry with. However, the number of people who remain as a single is increasing as time goes by. So people have problem about whether they get married or remain as a single now. I think remaining as a single is better than getting married because remaining as a single is helpful to self-improvement and freedom from getting along with new family members, and gives us a chance to meet various opposite sex freely.
To begin with, singles can spend all their money and time to improve themselves. If someone get married and have their baby, the time and money that they spend for themselves are reduced. However, singles invest their time and money to work or travel or other habits. According to one research which is conducted by the National Statistical Office, two out of every ten married women resign their jobs after they get married because most of women have responsibility for bringing up a child and managing their housework. This research means that married women give up their opportunities to develop themselves. As a result, they are dissatisfied and disappointed at giving up their self-actualization. However, if people stay as a single, they can do everything which they want. In other words, people can enjoy their lives and invest all their property to develop themselves.
Secondly, singles do not need to be under stress from new family members of spouse. A marriage is not only for two person but also association of two families. Some people feel comfortable when they get along with new family members of spouse. However, many people feel uncomfortable and get stressed from it because new family members are not original their family and differ from them in many points. For examples, they differ in religion, political thoughts, preference and so on. It is because they are under the dissimilar home background for a long time. So, a divorce rate is increasing rapidly as time goes by. According to one research conducted by the National Statistical Office, four out of ten couples break their married life in these days and the most influential cause of a divorce is differences of characters. These differences are also adapted to other new family members. So, many people get divorced for this reason and they would be sadly wounded. However, singles are free from these troublesome of associating with new family members and it is why I think remaining as a solo is better.
On the contrary, some people say that a marriage help them to gain stabilities for many points such as economy, mentality. It is partly right because double-income families not only earn and save more money than single but also depend on each other when they are placed in a difficult situation. However, the rate of a divorce increases as I quote a statistical data in a previous paragraph. This data means that some people get stress and are dissatisfied at getting married for any reasons. For examples, my aunt and uncle get divorced recently for difference of thoughts each other. They postponed their divorce by now because my cousins were students. So they waited for a growth of their children and get divorced finally. Although this example is only minor case, this case occurs frequently as a statistical data says.
As we get on in years, parents or relatives would ask us when we get married in special days such as the Thanksgiving Day or the New Year’s Day. So some people get stressed from it and get married against their wills. As I said previous paragraphs, remaining as a single has many advantages. By doing so, we can spend our time and money in improving ourselves and do not need to worry about getting along with new family members. Also a statistical data conducted by National Statistical Office supports my argument. So, if getting married makes you miserable, I think that a brilliant single is better.
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