▶ Your Answer : We have to meet so many rules to follow in
our lifetime. From small regulation of high school to the constitution, there
are different layer of regulation in our life. Some parents say that they also
set a strict regulation to their childrens' success, but I cannot agree with
their idea. First of all, I cannot easily understand
which is a success and how we can set up a rule for that. For example, if we
talk about a success of professional career, there are several different types
of occupations ; Athlete, scholar, enterpreneurs, or teacher. We cannot make a
"Rule for success" by each profession because their characters are
totally different from each other. And even if we make our goal to make our
child as a happy individual, this is also difficult to give them our rules
because there are several types of "Happy man"; man who has a variety
of hobbies or woman who loves her family, or personne who has many friends. So
our rules cannot be suitable for all those different types of success and it can
be useless.
Next, those rules given by parents are
likely to be a failure because their children cannot understand or do not agree
with that. Children have different idea about their life and they are living in
a diffrent world from that of upper generation and this easily leds to a
conflict between their parents, who cannot understand their culture. In this
circumstance, children usually express their disagreement toward those rules
from parents. If their parents keep asking them to obey those rules, we will
meet a child who becomes aggresive and this can ruin one's entire life. In
short, setting a rule for a child not just can be a useless idea but also a
dangerous idea which can break our relationship with our child.
I can understand those parents who give
their rules to children, as I can understand their love of their child and also
their worries about their loved one. But what we have to admit is that the life
of child is entierely to him or her, which cannot be navigated by us. The world is
always changing as the speed that we cannot follow and that means we can be
wrong to our children because they will live where we cannot imagine. So let's
just see what they can do. What we can do for them is just being a shelter in this
harsh and cruel world. |